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Trans Visibility, And One Year Out

Published: 2022-03-31

Reflecting on a busy and spectacular year full of changes, as well as discussing what it means to be visible.

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How I Worked Out I Was Trans

Published: 2022-02-24

Warning: this post talks about some of my dysphoria, however I don’t go into a lot of detail. A quick timeline as an overview: * 2015 - 2018: got meeting trans people at university, realised being trans is a thing * 2019: seeing trans people share their transitions on social media, realising that, hey actually, this is something attainable and something I’d want! * March 2020: start of lockdown, move home. shave off beard and really love how it looks. start having a proper gender c

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We Don’t Do Valentine’s

Published: 2022-02-14

My relationship with my partner, Izzy, is not the most orthodox. We first met on Twitter about eleven(?) years ago, through a shared interest in the video game, Portal. We spent the next six or so years becoming really close internet friends, helping each other through difficult times and hanging out and playing video games together online. Eventually, in 2018, she came to visit me in London and we went to a folk concert together. We rapidly realised we both had feelings beyond just good frien

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Twenty-Twenty One

Published: 2021-12-30

It’s really tricky to try and sum up such a year as 2021. Amongst the constant anxiety, stress and sadness from living through a once-in-a-generation* global pandemic, I’ve been really fortunate in feeling the most alive I’ve ever felt. If I had to sum up my year in one word, it would be: foundational. I feel like there’s a lot that’s happened that will set me up for an even better future. * I mean, climate change will probably mean more pandemics, as natural habitats fail and wild animals acti

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Dear Closeted, Younger Me

Published: 2021-12-27

About a year ago, I was cracking out of my trans denial phase and working out who I was. I was deeply closeted to everyone but my wonderful and supportive partner and a couple of other people close to me. Scrolling through Twitter, saw tweets from other trans femmes who were out, doing amazing things and otherwise just proudly living their lives. As much as it was really wonderful to see, a small part of me definitely felt jealous and envious that they were able to live their life and be out an

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